Alright... this one's for the Twihards (I'm one of them - Team Edward all the way)...
I had the pleasure of attending an event last night at the 7 for all Mankind store at Northpark where actress Nikki Reed showcased her fabulous Mattlin Era jewelry collection. The chic and affordable pieces in her collaborative collection 7Fam x Nikki Reed are hot - I picked up the Starry Night earrings. You have to check them out! Click here for more information!
Nikki is super sweet y'all - she said she loves Dallas and she was so gracious with all the guests! I'm an even bigger fan now!
Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
That's a wrap!
Over the last couple of weeks I made 5 round-trip treks to Austin to audition for and shoot a national commercial. We got rained out last week but finally filmed our backyard bbq scene yesterday. I can't tell you how much fun we had. I got to work with an incredible group of actors and a phenomenal crew. It doesn't make sense that we got paid to have so much fun!
Happy birthday Brynie Pie!
This little mama came into the world butt-first five years ago today and our lives haven't been the same since!
Sunday, May 12, 2013
Friday, May 3, 2013
AB 1309
I felt like I got the wind knocked out of me today. Straight sucker punched in a brawl I didn't know I was involved in until a little over a month ago. An early morning email informed me that California assembly bill 1309 was going before the assembly today for a vote. After watching the bill unanimously pass out of the insurance committee last week, I figured it would easily pass out of the assembly today with little fanfare or opposition. It did. And I feel sick.
AB 1309 will effectively exclude professional athletes from filing workman's comp claims in the state of California. If passed, it will retroactively wipe out pending claims as well, some that have been in the pipeline for 4-5 years. There are approximately 1,000 pending workman's comp claims in the state that would be precluded if the bill passes, including Ryan's which was filed almost 2.5 years ago. We were completely unaware of the bill until we received a status update from Ryan's attorney a little while back. That's when I started researching the bill, unaware that it was being fast-tracked through the state assembly. The bill is on its way to the senate for consideration - no doubt it will be fast-tracked there as well.
So what is AB 1309? AB 1309 was authored by Insurance Committee Chairman Perea to address abuse of California's ultra-lenient workman's comp system. As is, the system lends itself to abuse by allowing former professional athletes to file claims in CA even if their contacts with the state are minimal. I'll be the first to admit that I appreciate the need to "fix" the system. I've heard stories of lawyers hunting down and recruiting former players to file claims. During the insurance committee hearing, Assemblywoman Torres noted that an insurance company's statistics showed that claims paid out to approximately 2% of claimants involved former athletes whose only contact with California was their agents. They had never played for a California team, played a game in California, or even lived in California. But because of the system's set up, they were somehow able to file a successful claim. I don't think anyone would argue that this is fair except for those athletes and their lawyers.
So to close the "loopholes" and prohibit athletes from "taking advantage" of the system, AB 1309 was introduced. The original version of the bill would preclude a claim if the athlete played on another pro-team in another state, regardless of how long he played in California. Players like LaDainian Tomlinson, Tim Brown or the late Junior Seau would all be precluded from filing a claim because they played on out-of-state teams even though they spent a majority of their career on a California team.
Assemblyman Perea attempted to address these concerns by amending the bill to include what I'm calling the 80-8 rule. The amendment would allow players who played 80% of their career or 8 years on a California team to file a workman's comp claim. This may seem reasonable to some, but when looked at through the reality lens of football, it's easy to understand why the amendment is nonsensical.
FACTS:
- The average NFL career is 3.5 years - there are probably a handful of players who will actually play 8 years on one team, let alone 8 years total in the NFL
- The duration of most NFL contracts are 1-4 years. These contracts are not guaranteed, and players often move from team to team after being cut or their contracts expire. It's the well-known transient nature of the league. NFL wives often joke about starting moving companies because we do it so often we'd know what we were doing (moving expenses aren't paid for by the way). Ryan played on 8 professional football teams over the course of his 10 year career. 8 teams. His story is not unique - it's the norm unless you're one of the big-name franchise players like Tony Romo or Eli Manning who might play on one or two teams their whole career. Very few NFL players will spend 8 years on one team.
So while Mr. Perea's 80-8 amendment seems reasonable on its face, it is easy to understand that when applied in the real world of pro-football, most players (including players who spend several years playing for a California team like CB Chris Johnson) would still be excluded from filing a claim.
Another major problem with the bill is that it creates a one-year limitations period for filing a claim. Professional athletes would have ONE YEAR from the time an injury is suffered/diagnosed to file the CA claim. ONE YEAR. Again, in theory, I don't think this sounds unreasonable. But when applied to the reality of pro-football, it's flat out ludicrous.
Football is a very physical, full-contact sport. DUH. Players get hurt all the time. It's a miracle if a player makes it to the end of the season without getting banged up. And if you're a guy like Ryan who isn't a superstar and you're constantly at risk of being replaced, you have no choice but to get out on that field and play, regardless of what hurts and how bad. When Ryan developed plantar fasciitis in both feet one season, he wasn't thinking, "Man, I need to file that CA workman's comp claim." He was thinking, "I better get my *ss on that field or I'm getting cut and I won't be able to support my family."
Team trainers and doctors treat players after every practice, every game. Players have offseason surgery in droves. That means there's a diagnosis by a licensed physician and that the players have one year from that diagnosis to file their claims or recovery for that injury will be barred. Again, when considered in "real life" and not legislative fantasy land, this is ridiculous.
There are some other factors to consider when looking at the limitations period. And I'm going to keep it real right now because I think it's hard for people outside of football to understand and appreciate how devastating this law would be for former players with legitimate claims. Ryan's last NFL season was in 2007. He attempted to play in the UFL in 2009-2010 but was plagued by injuries and was beginning to show clear signs of cognitive impairment. But he medicated (painkillers are often times easily accessible for pro-athletes) and played through the pain. The culture of football conditions these athletes to believe that being injured is a sign of weakness. They are told they have to be tough. They lose their jobs if they complain. So they deny. And deny. And deny again that there is anything wrong. I finally had to threaten Ryan with divorce if he didn't seek medical treatment for his issues - the constant pain and post-concussion problems were taking a heavy toll on our marriage. Only then did Ryan seek help. Even now it's hard for him to admit the havoc football has wreaked on his body. How do you file a workman's comp claim within a year's time if you can't admit you're having problems?
Another major component of AB 1309 is the retroactive nature of the bill. Once passed, all claims that don't meet these very stringent requirements will be extinguished. Gone. Complete. Over. That means all of the time, energy and effort expended on these cases by the players, their attorneys, medical professionals, and even the CA workman's comp system will be wasted. If Assemblyman Perea's goal in passing this bill is fairness (as he's stated), then the retroactivity should be a major concern for everyone.
So here's what we've established so far: AB 1309 on its face sounds reasonable, but when we factor in the reality of football and the unfairness of the retroactivity, this bill is not reasonable at all. Because I lived the football life - the constant moving around, the devastating injuries, etc. - it is easy for me to appreciate why this bill is so unfair. I can also appreciate why others are a bit quicker to pull the trigger and pass it if they have no clue what life in the big leagues is like.
Last week during the insurance committee hearing on AB 1309, Insurance Committee Vice-Chair Hagman erroneously stated that NFL players have lifetime health care coverage. That is 100% false. Know how I know? Our NFL insurance will run out at the end of August and we'll have to find affordable coverage that will cover Ryan's pre-existing conditions and Will's autism (we'll ignore all of my health issues for now - it's too depressing for me to think about). Someone else mentioned during the hearing that pro-athletes make millions of dollars as if that should have any bearing on the right to file a workman's comp claim. But that's also not true. It was clear to me that these state representatives, like so many other people who hear headlines of $60 million contracts, think all pro-athletes are rolling in the dough. The average NFL player isn't making millions of dollars. I can tell you for a fact that the guys who played in the '70's and '80's weren't making millions. Their salaries were comparable to the salaries the state representatives considering this bill are making now. It's admittedly a good living, but the constant fallacy of the multi-million dollar athlete taking advantage of and abusing the California system is just wrong.
With all of this misinformation spreading as justification for passing this bill, it's important to take a step back and examine who supports AB 1309. The proponents include the major sports leagues and teams who are responsible for maintaining workman's comp insurance - the same workman's comp insurance that would provide former players with resources to pay for their extensive post-career healthcare costs. The NFL has recently pledged MILLIONS of dollars to concussion research in the name of player safety and has rolled out an ad campaign pledging support for former players. Yet they are aggressively pushing a law that would bar these same players they claim to care about from collecting benefits because they don't want to pay a 1-2% increase in premium costs that "might" be imposed if AB 1309 isn't passed. Go ahead - try to make that make sense...
I had a disturbing epiphany today. I listened to a brief radio interview with Senator Darrell Steinberg who will be considering this bill in the very near future. Here's what I got out of his comments (and the comments of the radio broadcaster) - this bill is about stopping greedy athletes with minimal California contacts from abusing the system. Greedy athletes. Minimal states contacts. Abusing the system. I'll tell you what - the AB 1309 proponents are getting their money's worth out of the lobbyists they've hired to push this bill. Now the athletes are the bad guys. The athletes who pay taxes in the state of California, who played for California teams, who live in the state, who have family in the state, who have contributed to the workman's comp system to the tune of about $48 million/year, are the bad guys. They are spoiled rich crybabies trying to work the system. Surely the NFL isn't the one being greedy.
Here are some important considerations:
- The NFL is a $9 BILLION/year business. That's "billion" with a big ol' fat "B!" I can assure you the average "greedy" football player isn't making billions.
- California collected roughly $171 million dollars in taxes from professional athletes last year. People may not realize that out-of-state football players are double-taxed - if they travel to California, they pay taxes in their team state AND California for the money earned for that game. The state benefits from these players coming into their state but now state reps want to pass a bill that would deny these players workman's comp benefits. And we won't even get into the players who did play for a California team and paid out the behind in taxes who will be precluded from filing a workman's comp claim under AB 1309.
And you would think from the banter I've heard that the mere act of filing a claim guarantees benefits for the former athlete. Wrong again. These guys still have to prove their claims. They have to sit through depositions and go through EXTENSIVE medical exams to determine what injuries, if any, are covered. Why not let these guys have their day in court and allow their claims to be heard?!? One reason I've heard is that the system is too backlogged because of all of these claims. So the fix for that is to prohibit players from filing claims? Imagine you had a lawsuit filed in a regular court that's been pending for a couple of years, but because of backlogged dockets, the legislature decides to wipe out 95% of the cases including yours. I bet you'd be pissed - you'd want an opportunity to prove your case and be heard.
This is undoubtedly the longest blog post I've ever written but it's important. Professional athletes are being singled out and prohibited from filing workman's comp claims because the major leagues don't want to incur the costs of taking care of their former athletes. Yes, there is undoubtedly abuse of the system - but for every guy taking advantage of it, there are countless athletes who have legitimate claims who will not be able to file claims. Close the loopholes, tighten the requirements for filing - but do so in a manner that doesn't exclude everyone but a handful of athletes who defied the odds and are lucky enough to meet the bill's conditions. I'm not asking you to have sympathy for former players - I understand that's hard. They are "multi-millionaires" after all. But I am asking that they be treated just like any other worker in California and that they aren't singled out and held to a higher standard than everyone else because they were lucky enough to play pro sports (only 2% of college football players will play in the NFL - talent will only get you so far).
Think about it - the state of California will gain nothing by passing this law. Taxpayers aren't paying out of pocket for these claims. But the NFL and other leagues and teams will save money on premiums while former pro-athletes will be prohibited from filing claims and receiving benefits for their injuries. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out who truly stands to benefit from the passage of AB 1309.
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Wednesday, May 1, 2013
Hollywood Glam
Our wonderful friends the Vieths invited us to a fun event last Friday. Audrey Landers and Shirley Jones wowed the crowd in the intimate concert setting. But you know who wowed? I did - in another amazing Watters gown!
Thanks to Bob Manzano for the amazing pic!
Speaking of Watters, they're having a sample sale this weekend - you might want to check it out!
Thanks to Bob Manzano for the amazing pic!
Speaking of Watters, they're having a sample sale this weekend - you might want to check it out!
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Monday, April 29, 2013
Autism Awareness featured on the CW 33's Nightcap News
My friend Amanda Fitzpatrick approached me about doing a story to wrap up autism awareness month. She put this amazing piece together and I appreciate her so much for doing this.
Thursday, April 25, 2013
Monday, April 22, 2013
Our mayor is the best!
Last week we attended the Frisco City Council meeting where our mayor, Maher Maso, read a proclamation recognizing World Autism Awareness Day. The mayor asked Will if he wanted to say anything. Will grabbed the mic, thought for a minute, then said, "Baby car." He's a little obsessed these days with the Toyota Prius.
I recently found out that Frisco ISD has almost 700 students enrolled that are on the autism spectrum. I knew it would be a lot considering the number of young families in Frisco - but I didn't expect the number to be so high. Will's teacher did the math - that actually puts the number at 1 in 86/87 on the autism spectrum. The national average is 1 in 88.
We were so grateful that some of Will's teachers came out to support last Monday - they truly care about Will. And thank you to the mayor and city council for their continued support!
I recently found out that Frisco ISD has almost 700 students enrolled that are on the autism spectrum. I knew it would be a lot considering the number of young families in Frisco - but I didn't expect the number to be so high. Will's teacher did the math - that actually puts the number at 1 in 86/87 on the autism spectrum. The national average is 1 in 88.
We were so grateful that some of Will's teachers came out to support last Monday - they truly care about Will. And thank you to the mayor and city council for their continued support!
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Wednesday, April 17, 2013
Tuesday, April 16, 2013
Wednesday, April 10, 2013
Friday, April 5, 2013
I am 1 in 50
Last month I came across an essay contest Parenting magazine was holding to promote autism awareness. In 250 words or less, I had to describe what autism means in our family. I learned this evening that my essay was selected and featured in the top 50 on www.parenting.com from over 400 entries. Kudos to Parenting mag for sharing our stories and promoting autism awareness!
Here's the link to the feature:
http://www.parenting.com/autism
And here's the link to my essay:
http://www.parenting.com/article/hopes-and-dreams-revised-not-rejected
Here's the link to the feature:
http://www.parenting.com/autism
And here's the link to my essay:
http://www.parenting.com/article/hopes-and-dreams-revised-not-rejected
VICTORY!!!!
Will participated in the Special Olympics today - he took gold in the ball throw and came in third in the 50m dash. So proud of him!
Thursday, April 4, 2013
The Ten Commandments (with a dash of Throwback Thursday)
I saw this yesterday on Facebook and thought it would be great to share here...
TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR INTERACTING WITH KIDS ON THE AUTISM SPECTRUM
1. Thou shall not yell when speaking to me.
My Autism does not impair my hearing and I am extremely bright. Perhaps even brighter than you are.
2. Thou shall not ignore me, talk negatively about me, speak unnaturally slow, or ask questions to others in the room that pertain to me.
I can comprehend what you are saying just fine.
3. Thou shall believe in me and help me believe in my skills and self worth.
Note the good in me and do not merely point out my negative behaviors. Believe in me and I will believe in myself.
4. Thou shall not perceive me as dumb.
I am extremely intelligent. I do not learn in the same way as you, and maybe not as quickly as you expect me to. Have patience with me. Once I recall information, I never forget.
5. Thou shall not judge my behavior.
I can get overstimulated in certain environments. I may be hypersensitive to sound and loud noises may hurt my ears. Fluorescent lights are distracting for me. They have a humming noise, and can pulsate. All the noises in a room can blur together. Please make accommodations to help me.
6. Thou shall not be so quick to scold me.
Do not tell me that “I know what I did”. I do not. Tell me what my infraction was in a simple, concise manner. I want to please you, but I have difficulties inferring meaning within a vague statement. For instance, do not say please clean up your bedroom. Tell me exactly what you want, such as ‘Please make your bed and pick up your toys”.
7. Thou shall not compare me to others.
Please remind me, and note the talents that I possess. This increases my confidence and positive self worth. Learning disabled or not, we ALL have talents to contribute within society. I need you to help me realize what mine is. Believe in me and I will believe in myself.
8. Thou shall not exclude me from activities.
Please do not mimic me, ignore me, or bully me. Please invite me to play with you. It hurts my feelings when I am excluded. I like to run and jump in the playground, and be invited to birthday parties too. Grown ups can help me make friends by encouraging other children to play with me. I can be a loyal friend if you get to know me.
9. Thou shall give me choices.
I do not like being ordered about any more than the other children. Give me choices so I know you value my capabilities and opinions. Make them simple and concise. Present two options or so. I get confused when too many questions or directions are given at one time due to my processing speed. For instance, ask me if I would like to wear my blue sweater or green one, rather than asking which sweater I would like to wear.
10. Thou shall not judge me by my diagnosis, but by my character.
I am an individual, just like other children. ♥
Today's Throwback Thursday pic - one of my favorites of ALL TIME! Will was probably 3 in this picture - he was playing in the weight room at the Bills' training facility.
TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR INTERACTING WITH KIDS ON THE AUTISM SPECTRUM
1. Thou shall not yell when speaking to me.
My Autism does not impair my hearing and I am extremely bright. Perhaps even brighter than you are.
2. Thou shall not ignore me, talk negatively about me, speak unnaturally slow, or ask questions to others in the room that pertain to me.
I can comprehend what you are saying just fine.
3. Thou shall believe in me and help me believe in my skills and self worth.
Note the good in me and do not merely point out my negative behaviors. Believe in me and I will believe in myself.
4. Thou shall not perceive me as dumb.
I am extremely intelligent. I do not learn in the same way as you, and maybe not as quickly as you expect me to. Have patience with me. Once I recall information, I never forget.
5. Thou shall not judge my behavior.
I can get overstimulated in certain environments. I may be hypersensitive to sound and loud noises may hurt my ears. Fluorescent lights are distracting for me. They have a humming noise, and can pulsate. All the noises in a room can blur together. Please make accommodations to help me.
6. Thou shall not be so quick to scold me.
Do not tell me that “I know what I did”. I do not. Tell me what my infraction was in a simple, concise manner. I want to please you, but I have difficulties inferring meaning within a vague statement. For instance, do not say please clean up your bedroom. Tell me exactly what you want, such as ‘Please make your bed and pick up your toys”.
7. Thou shall not compare me to others.
Please remind me, and note the talents that I possess. This increases my confidence and positive self worth. Learning disabled or not, we ALL have talents to contribute within society. I need you to help me realize what mine is. Believe in me and I will believe in myself.
8. Thou shall not exclude me from activities.
Please do not mimic me, ignore me, or bully me. Please invite me to play with you. It hurts my feelings when I am excluded. I like to run and jump in the playground, and be invited to birthday parties too. Grown ups can help me make friends by encouraging other children to play with me. I can be a loyal friend if you get to know me.
9. Thou shall give me choices.
I do not like being ordered about any more than the other children. Give me choices so I know you value my capabilities and opinions. Make them simple and concise. Present two options or so. I get confused when too many questions or directions are given at one time due to my processing speed. For instance, ask me if I would like to wear my blue sweater or green one, rather than asking which sweater I would like to wear.
10. Thou shall not judge me by my diagnosis, but by my character.
I am an individual, just like other children. ♥
Today's Throwback Thursday pic - one of my favorites of ALL TIME! Will was probably 3 in this picture - he was playing in the weight room at the Bills' training facility.
Tuesday, April 2, 2013
It's World Autism Awareness Day!!!
The awesome folks at D: The Broadcast invited me on the show to talk about autism today. I chatted with my friends Pat Smith and Courtney Kerr about autism and what people need to know. Check out the video!
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Monday, April 1, 2013
The United States of Autism
Last night I had the pleasure of screening an amazing film entitled "The United States of Autism." The documentary is exceptional - the filmmaker is able to capture the essence of autism by interviewing families across the country. I laughed and I cried listening to the stories told by these families. Autism is a spectrum disorder, and this film really shows how diverse and different autism is for all who are dealing with it. It's definitely worth checking out. Screenings are being held all over the country - check the website here to find one near you (or you can consider holding a screening - there is information on the website).
Trailer
1 in 88
Did you know autism affects 1 in 88 children? That number is even higher for boys - our sons are being diagnosed at a rate of 1 in 54. A recent CDC survey suggests that the rate of autism is higher, affecting 1 in 50 children.
April is Autism Awareness Month - or as one of my friends put it on Facebook...
I'll be sharing stories, resources, tips, etc. throughout the month so please check back often. Tomorrow I'll be joining the ladies of D the Broadcast to discuss autism awareness and Autism Speaks' Light It Up Blue campaign. So set your DVRs or tune in!
April is Autism Awareness Month - or as one of my friends put it on Facebook...
I'll be sharing stories, resources, tips, etc. throughout the month so please check back often. Tomorrow I'll be joining the ladies of D the Broadcast to discuss autism awareness and Autism Speaks' Light It Up Blue campaign. So set your DVRs or tune in!
Sunday, March 31, 2013
Easter 2013!
Holidays always make me wish we lived closer to family. Without having everyone around, holidays can be a bit uneventful. We went to the 930 am service this morning at Prestonwood then had brunch in the church's cafeteria. After some downtime at home, we hid eggs (most with quarters or dollar bills) in the soggy backyard (we had some fierce thunderstorms roll through this morning). All in all, it was a great day!
Wishing you and yours a very happy Easter!
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