Tuesday, May 28, 2013

My JCPenney Commercial Is On The Air!

I was bombarded with texts, emails and social media shout outs yesterday from all of my friends who spotted my commercial.  It was running on just about every major channel in every major market!  I still can't believe we got paid to do this.  We had a blast and the crew was amazing!  Here it is!  Click the link below.


Monday, May 27, 2013

On a mission - Moore, OK

On Monday afternoon, I sat in my living room watching a tornado plow through the town of Moore, Oklahoma on live television.  I watched the massive tornado dissipate as the CNN anchor described the devastation.  The helicopter's camera panned back down on the tornado's footprint.  Mass destruction.  It was clear that whole subdivisions of neighborhoods were flattened.  A medical center in town was destroyed.  Then the cameras focused on the schools - there were two of them that were nothing more than piles of rubble.  I looked at the clock and my heart sank - it was still early and there were probably children in the schools.

Late Monday night, the medical examiner confirmed 91 deaths.  Luckily, that number was lowered to 24 the following day.  10 of the victims were children.  2 of them were infants.  Some of the children died in the Plaza Towers elementary school where they huddled in the hallways.  

On Tuesday morning, I texted 90999 like everyone else I know and donated $10 to the Red Cross.  But that just didn't feel sufficient.  I wanted to help.  I reached out to some friends about collecting items for special needs children affected by the tornadoes and began researching organizations to donate to.  That still just didn't feel like I was doing enough.  So when my friend Alison McDaniel messaged me asking if I wanted to drive up to Oklahoma to volunteer, I didn't hesitate to say "YES!"  We were on the road at 5:30 a.m. Wednesday morning.

The drive up to Oklahoma on I35 was breathtaking.  The sun rose above a low, thick layer of fog.  It was beautiful.  

We hit Moore right around 8:45 a.m.  We sat in what we thought was the usual rush hour congestion, but we were wrong.  

First we noticed the debris on the side of the road to our right...

Then we looked to our left and saw the medical center that had been destroyed and the movie theater we recognized from the news coverage.  That's when we realized we were in the exact spot where the F5 tornado crossed the freeway.

Our initial plan was to drive to Oklahoma City and register as volunteers with the Red Cross but with the traffic, we wouldn't have made it there in time for the 9 a.m. orientation.  A friend had posted that people would be meeting at the Moore community center to go clean the cemetery so we decided to hop off the freeway.  Why the cemetery?  The good people of Moore needed to start laying to rest the 24 citizens it lost last week.  To our surprise, the community center was right in front of us and we followed the volunteers into the center to await instructions.

They thought 100 people would show up to volunteer.  Not quite.  Over 500 people carrying shovels,  rakes, trash bags and gloves congregated then walked a mile to the cemetery to begin clean up efforts.

Right before we got to the cemetery, there was a tent set up offering free tetanus shots.  Alison and I rolled up our sleeves and stood in line.  I can't remember the last time I had a tetanus shot - college maybe?  There was no hesitation with all the debris we knew we'd be encountering.

The cemetery was covered in it.  Insulation was caked on headstones.  Wood sticks impaled the ground.  I only cried when I came across hair bows, baby bottles and clothing.

Some young ladies from a local college who came out to help came across this page from the Bible:

Revelation 18... pieces of it anyway.  Amazing what survived the 250+ m.p.h. winds.

We were cleaning up towards the front of the cemetery and off towards the back, I could see a flattened neighborhood.  I soon found out it was the neighborhood where Plaza Towers Elementary is located.  7 children lost their lives in that school last week.  Before lunch, I decided to walk back to take a closer look.

As I walked, I read some of the headstones - some were from the late 1800s.  Others were for children and war veterans.  I noticed a chain link fence on my left was gone and that the ground had gone from green to brownish yellow.  This is where the tornado was on the ground.  Headstones were reduced to rubble.  Some were gone.  I cried.

I walked past a volunteer and asked if he'd ever seen anything so horrible.  He said yes.  I asked where.  He replied, "My home country, Iraq."  Wow - a war zone, where buildings were reduced to rubble by bombs.  Moore looked like a war zone.  I've never seen one in person, but I can imagine he's right.

This is a sight I will never forget.  A single solitary chair sitting in the middle of the cemetery.  It looked like it was exactly where it was during the storm.  It was covered in the muddy insulation that was on the headstones.  It was surreal.

I'd walked past a gentleman who was clearly clergy a little earlier.  When we crossed paths again, he asked if I was okay.  I replied "no" through my tears.  He asked if he could pray with me.  After we were done, I asked for his help.  I told him that I was hoping to connect with an organization in the Moore area that would accept donations for families with special needs children affected by the tornado.  He told me he had some special education teachers in his congregation and he could put me in touch with them.  Amazed, I realized that Rev. Doug and I were supposed to cross paths that day in the cemetery.

We broke for lunch and were fed by the good folks of Tyson Foods who'd set up a mobile command center at the church next door to feed volunteers.  As we stood in line, we noticed some firemen walking from behind the church who stood in line with the rest of us.  We insisted they move to the front of the line.  We later learned that these guys, some from as far away as Nebraska, were looking for bodies in some nearby brush.

After we finished lunch, I noticed some folks pointing towards the entrance of the church.  Pastor Doug of Southgate Baptist marveled at how his church was still standing even though it was right next to the cemetery, the neighborhood flattened next to the elementary school, and the destroyed medical center.  Then he pointed up.  There, right in the front of the church, was a stick in the shape of a cross that had impaled itself into the side of the building.  It was breathtaking.

After lunch, we parted ways with our new friends - Beverly, Rachel and Pawpaw.  It amazed me how we bonded with these amazing people.  After spending the entire morning with them, it felt like we were saying goodbye to family!  We vowed to keep in touch.  Ms. Beverly even offered up her home if we needed a place to stay.  The amazing camaraderie of the volunteers warmed my heart.

We went across the street into Zone 6 - the amazing people at www.servemoore.com had the volunteer efforts coordinated so well.  Definitely visit the website if you're interested in going up to Moore to help with clean up efforts.

Here's one of the streets Alison and I worked on.  The street was covered with debris - lots of sticks and insulation.  We even phone some photographs.  After tackling a couple of streets, Alison and I realized we were pretty much toast.  We wanted to keep going but we were tired.  Our arms were aching from our tetanus shots and the sun had worn us out.  We were about ready to head home.

We went back to the community center and we heard someone ask for volunteers with cars to go out into the neighborhoods and take water and snacks to the residents.  Alison and I looked at each other and without hesitation raised our hands.  We piled her truck up with water, Gatorade, apples and crackers and set out into the hardest hit areas.

All of the roads leading into the neighborhoods were barricaded - police officers and national guardsmen stood guard.  They allowed us in when they saw all of the water.  The first neighborhood we entered was demolished.  House after house after house was just gone.  We briefly chatted with a family who lost everything.  We told them we were from Texas - they said they were going to move back.  They seemed to be in good spirits but were obviously hurting.

These pictures, as awful as they are, don't truly capture how bad things are up there.  Alison and I both felt a little sick to our stomachs.  The shock made it difficult to cry.  But it was awful.  As we drove from one neighborhood to the next, we thought it couldn't possibly get worse, but it did.

One thing I remember from the movie Twister was the randomness of tornadoes.  I believe it.  We drove into one neighborhood where the first three or four houses were destroyed.  And these were big houses.

Right down the street in the same neighborhood, this home was seemingly untouched.

We drove by another house that was leveled except for the kitchen.  And there, sitting on the counter, was dish soap.  We could do nothing but stare.

We drove down another street with three houses on it.  The first one was still standing but had sustained some damage.  The other two were reduced to nothing but their foundations.  Even in some of the harder hit areas, there were still remnants of a house.  Here, there was nothing.  The owners were just seeing what remained of their homes for the first time - they were clearly in shock.  But they were happy to see us - I don't think any volunteers had made it their way yet with water and snacks.

Alison and I decided to hit the road and head back to Texas.  But we have vowed to go back.  Alison has already gone up there again with friends and we plan to go back this week.  Both of our arms are still sore from those tetanus shots.  And I'll be "fixing" this farmer's tan on my back for months to come.  But the pain and horrible tan lines are just a small reminder of the terrible things we saw that day.  But I have no doubt that our neighbors to the north will persevere and rebuild.  Moore will be stronger than it was before.  And I'm glad I was able to help.

Monday, May 20, 2013

Tragedy in Oklahoma...

Just yesterday, at least four tornadoes touched down in Shawnee, OK causing massive destruction.  Today, a tornado spanning two miles barreled through the town of Moore, OK wiping out entire neighborhoods.  There were two schools directly in the path of the tornadoes.  All the children from one school are accounted for.  At Plaza Towers Elementary School, at least 7 children are dead and the medical examiner is being told to expect the bodies of 20 more children.  As I watched the coverage on CNN this afternoon, I saw the flattened school and just started crying.  I knew that if there were children in there, there would be multiple fatalities.

Praying for the folks in Oklahoma tonight...

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

For the Twihards...

Alright... this one's for the Twihards (I'm one of them - Team Edward all the way)...

I had the pleasure of attending an event last night at the 7 for all Mankind store at Northpark where actress Nikki Reed showcased her fabulous Mattlin Era jewelry collection.  The chic and affordable pieces in her collaborative collection 7Fam x Nikki Reed are hot - I picked up the Starry Night earrings.  You have to check them out!  Click here for more information!

Nikki is super sweet y'all - she said she loves Dallas and she was so gracious with all the guests!  I'm an even bigger fan now!

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

That's a wrap!

Over the last couple of weeks I made 5 round-trip treks to Austin to audition for and shoot a national commercial.  We got rained out last week but finally filmed our backyard bbq scene yesterday.  I can't tell you how much fun we had.  I got to work with an incredible group of actors and a phenomenal crew.  It doesn't make sense that we got paid to have so much fun!

Happy birthday Brynie Pie!

This little mama came into the world butt-first five years ago today and our lives haven't been the same since!

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Friday, May 3, 2013

AB 1309

I felt like I got the wind knocked out of me today.  Straight sucker punched in a brawl I didn't know I was involved in until a little over a month ago.  An early morning email informed me that California assembly bill 1309 was going before the assembly today for a vote.  After watching the bill unanimously pass out of the insurance committee last week, I figured it would easily pass out of the assembly today with little fanfare or opposition.  It did.  And I feel sick.

AB 1309 will effectively exclude professional athletes from filing workman's comp claims in the state of California.  If passed, it will retroactively wipe out pending claims as well, some that have been in the pipeline for 4-5 years.  There are approximately 1,000 pending workman's comp claims in the state that would be precluded if the bill passes, including Ryan's which was filed almost 2.5 years ago.  We were completely unaware of the bill until we received a status update from Ryan's attorney a little while back.  That's when I started researching the bill, unaware that it was being fast-tracked through the state assembly.  The bill is on its way to the senate for consideration - no doubt it will be fast-tracked there as well.

So what is AB 1309?  AB 1309 was authored by Insurance Committee Chairman Perea to address abuse of California's ultra-lenient workman's comp system.  As is, the system lends itself to abuse by allowing former professional athletes to file claims in CA even if their contacts with the state are minimal.  I'll be the first to admit that I appreciate the need to "fix" the system.  I've heard stories of lawyers hunting down and recruiting former players to file claims.  During the insurance committee hearing, Assemblywoman Torres noted that an insurance company's statistics showed that claims paid out to approximately 2% of claimants involved former athletes whose only contact with California was their agents.  They had never played for a California team, played a game in California, or even lived in California.  But because of the system's set up, they were somehow able to file a successful claim.  I don't think anyone would argue that this is fair except for those athletes and their lawyers.

So to close the "loopholes" and prohibit athletes from "taking advantage" of the system, AB 1309 was introduced.  The original version of the bill would preclude a claim if the athlete played on another pro-team in another state, regardless of how long he played in California.  Players like LaDainian Tomlinson, Tim Brown or the late Junior Seau would all be precluded from filing a claim because they played on out-of-state teams even though they spent a majority of their career on a California team.

Assemblyman Perea attempted to address these concerns by amending the bill to include what I'm calling the 80-8 rule.  The amendment would allow players who played 80% of their career or 8 years on a California team to file a workman's comp claim.  This may seem reasonable to some, but when looked at through the reality lens of football, it's easy to understand why the amendment is nonsensical.

  • The average NFL career is 3.5 years - there are probably a handful of players who will actually play 8 years on one team, let alone 8 years total in the NFL
  • The duration of most NFL contracts are 1-4 years.  These contracts are not guaranteed, and players often move from team to team after being cut or their contracts expire.  It's the well-known transient nature of the league.  NFL wives often joke about starting moving companies because we do it so often we'd know what we were doing (moving expenses aren't paid for by the way).  Ryan played on 8 professional football teams over the course of his 10 year career.  8 teams.  His story is not unique - it's the norm unless you're one of the big-name franchise players like Tony Romo or Eli Manning who might play on one or two teams their whole career.  Very few NFL players will spend 8 years on one team.
So while Mr. Perea's 80-8 amendment seems reasonable on its face, it is easy to understand that when applied in the real world of pro-football, most players (including players who spend several years playing for a California team like CB Chris Johnson) would still be excluded from filing a claim.

Another major problem with the bill is that it creates a one-year limitations period for filing a claim.  Professional athletes would have ONE YEAR from the time an injury is suffered/diagnosed to file the CA claim.  ONE YEAR.  Again, in theory, I don't think this sounds unreasonable.  But when applied to the reality of pro-football, it's flat out ludicrous.  

Football is a very physical, full-contact sport.  DUH.  Players get hurt all the time.  It's a miracle if a player makes it to the end of the season without getting banged up.  And if you're a guy like Ryan who isn't a superstar and you're constantly at risk of being replaced, you have no choice but to get out on that field and play, regardless of what hurts and how bad.  When Ryan developed plantar fasciitis in both feet one season, he wasn't thinking, "Man, I need to file that CA workman's comp claim."  He was thinking, "I better get my *ss on that field or I'm getting cut and I won't be able to support my family."

Team trainers and doctors treat players after every practice, every game.  Players have offseason surgery in droves. That means there's a diagnosis by a licensed physician and that the players have one year from that diagnosis to file their claims or recovery for that injury will be barred.  Again, when considered in "real life" and not legislative fantasy land, this is ridiculous.

There are some other factors to consider when looking at the limitations period.  And I'm going to keep it real right now because I think it's hard for people outside of football to understand and appreciate how devastating this law would be for former players with legitimate claims.  Ryan's last NFL season was in 2007.  He attempted to play in the UFL in 2009-2010 but was plagued by injuries and was beginning to show clear signs of cognitive impairment.  But he medicated (painkillers are often times easily accessible for pro-athletes) and played through the pain.  The culture of football conditions these athletes to believe that being injured is a sign of weakness.  They are told they have to be tough.  They lose their jobs if they complain.  So they deny.  And deny.  And deny again that there is anything wrong.  I finally had to threaten Ryan with divorce if he didn't seek medical treatment for his issues - the constant pain and post-concussion problems were taking a heavy toll on our marriage.  Only then did Ryan seek help.  Even now it's hard for him to admit the havoc football has wreaked on his body.  How do you file a workman's comp claim within a year's time if you can't admit you're having problems?

Another major component of AB 1309 is the retroactive nature of the bill.  Once passed, all claims that don't meet these very stringent requirements will be extinguished.  Gone.  Complete.  Over.  That means all of the time, energy and effort expended on these cases by the players, their attorneys, medical professionals, and even the CA workman's comp system will be wasted.  If Assemblyman Perea's goal in passing this bill is fairness (as he's stated), then the retroactivity should be a major concern for everyone.  

So here's what we've established so far: AB 1309 on its face sounds reasonable, but when we factor in the reality of football and the unfairness of the retroactivity, this bill is not reasonable at all.  Because I lived the football life - the constant moving around, the devastating injuries, etc. - it is easy for me to appreciate why this bill is so unfair.  I can also appreciate why others are a bit quicker to pull the trigger and pass it if they have no clue what life in the big leagues is like.

Last week during the insurance committee hearing on AB 1309, Insurance Committee Vice-Chair Hagman erroneously stated that NFL players have lifetime health care coverage.  That is 100% false.  Know how I know?  Our NFL insurance will run out at the end of August and we'll have to find affordable coverage that will cover Ryan's pre-existing conditions and Will's autism (we'll ignore all of my health issues for now - it's too depressing for me to think about).  Someone else mentioned during the hearing that pro-athletes make millions of dollars as if that should have any bearing on the right to file a workman's comp claim.  But that's also not true.  It was clear to me that these state representatives, like so many other people who hear headlines of $60 million contracts, think all pro-athletes are rolling in the dough.  The average NFL player isn't making millions of dollars.  I can tell you for a fact that the guys who played in the '70's and '80's weren't making millions.  Their salaries were comparable to the salaries the state representatives considering this bill are making now.  It's admittedly a good living, but the constant fallacy of the multi-million dollar athlete taking advantage of and abusing the California system is just wrong.

With all of this misinformation spreading as justification for passing this bill, it's important to take a step back and examine who supports AB 1309.  The proponents include the major sports leagues and teams who are responsible for maintaining workman's comp insurance - the same workman's comp insurance that would provide former players with resources to pay for their extensive post-career healthcare costs.  The NFL has recently pledged MILLIONS of dollars to concussion research in the name of player safety and has rolled out an ad campaign pledging support for former players.  Yet they are aggressively pushing a law that would bar these same players they claim to care about from collecting benefits because they don't want to pay a 1-2% increase in premium costs that "might" be imposed if AB 1309 isn't passed.  Go ahead - try to make that make sense...

I had a disturbing epiphany today.  I listened to a brief radio interview with Senator Darrell Steinberg who will be considering this bill in the very near future.  Here's what I got out of his comments (and the comments of the radio broadcaster) - this bill is about stopping greedy athletes with minimal California contacts from abusing the system.  Greedy athletes.  Minimal states contacts.  Abusing the system.  I'll tell you what - the AB 1309 proponents are getting their money's worth out of the lobbyists they've hired to push this bill.  Now the athletes are the bad guys.  The athletes who pay taxes in the state of California, who played for California teams, who live in the state, who have family in the state, who have contributed to the workman's comp system to the tune of about $48 million/year, are the bad guys.  They are spoiled rich crybabies trying to work the system.  Surely the NFL isn't the one being greedy.

Here are some important considerations:
  • The NFL is a $9 BILLION/year business.  That's "billion" with a big ol' fat "B!"  I can assure you the average "greedy" football player isn't making billions. 
  • California collected roughly $171 million dollars in taxes from professional athletes last year.  People may not realize that out-of-state football players are double-taxed - if they travel to California, they pay taxes in their team state AND California for the money earned for that game.  The state benefits from these players coming into their state but now state reps want to pass a bill that would deny these players workman's comp benefits.  And we won't even get into the players who did play for a California team and paid out the behind in taxes who will be precluded from filing a workman's comp claim under AB 1309.
And you would think from the banter I've heard that the mere act of filing a claim guarantees benefits for the former athlete.  Wrong again.  These guys still have to prove their claims.  They have to sit through depositions and go through EXTENSIVE medical exams to determine what injuries, if any, are covered.  Why not let these guys have their day in court and allow their claims to be heard?!?  One reason I've heard is that the system is too backlogged because of all of these claims.  So the fix for that is to prohibit players from filing claims?  Imagine you had a lawsuit filed in a regular court that's been pending for a couple of years, but because of backlogged dockets, the legislature decides to wipe out 95% of the cases including yours.  I bet you'd be pissed - you'd want an opportunity to prove your case and be heard.

This is undoubtedly the longest blog post I've ever written but it's important.  Professional athletes are being singled out and prohibited from filing workman's comp claims because the major leagues don't want to incur the costs of taking care of their former athletes.  Yes, there is undoubtedly abuse of the system - but for every guy taking advantage of it, there are countless athletes who have legitimate claims who will not be able to file claims.  Close the loopholes, tighten the requirements for filing - but do so in a manner that doesn't exclude everyone but a handful of athletes who defied the odds and are lucky enough to meet the bill's conditions.  I'm not asking you to have sympathy for former players - I understand that's hard.  They are "multi-millionaires" after all.  But I am asking that they be treated just like any other worker in California and that they aren't singled out and held to a higher standard than everyone else because they were lucky enough to play pro sports (only 2% of college football players will play in the NFL - talent will only get you so far).  

Think about it - the state of California will gain nothing by passing this law.  Taxpayers aren't paying out of pocket for these claims.  But the NFL and other leagues and teams will save money on premiums while former pro-athletes will be prohibited from filing claims and receiving benefits for their injuries.  It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out who truly stands to benefit from the passage of AB 1309. 

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Hollywood Glam

Our wonderful friends the Vieths invited us to a fun event last Friday.  Audrey Landers and Shirley Jones wowed the crowd in the intimate concert setting.  But you know who wowed?  I did - in another amazing Watters gown!

Thanks to Bob Manzano for the amazing pic!

Speaking of Watters, they're having a sample sale this weekend - you might want to check it out!